straight girls making out at parties for guys attention is annoying as fuck don’t do that
i’m not saying not to experiment with your sexuality and try new things but don’t do it for guys. your sexuality is your own personal journey. if two straight girls make out for a guys attention it’s sexualizing lesbian relationships and also invalidating their struggle. straight girls can make out with another girl and walk outside the next day holding their boyfriends hand not having to deal with any of the real life consequences if being gay but lgbt people can’t just turn it on and off at parties… it’s our real everyday life.
story one: at a party, sitting around with a buddy, a little tipsy and giggly and talking about this girl i’ve been casually hooking up with. this friend looks up at me, a little hesitant but obviously intrigued. “i’ve never kissed a girl before,” she says, “i don’t know if i’d be into it but it’s worth trying, right?” i laugh and say, of course, experimenting in a safe environment can be fun! i’ve kissed boys just to see if anything’s changed in the few years i’ve been dating exclusively women. nothing has, but it was worth checking in, right? she asks me, “can i kiss you? i know that’s a little weird and probably makes you feel kinda tokenized but i figure you’re literally the only lesbian i know and i like you as a person so it’s kind of an ideal opportunity. it’s okay if you don’t want to.’ she’s cute, and fun. i like kissing cuties. why not? i tell her sure, just say when you want to stop. we kiss for a little while, melding delightfully into the couch. she pulls away with a giggle. our friends standing around have taken notice. ‘whoa,’ they say, ‘did you guys just kiss?’ ‘yeah!’ my friend says. ‘shae was doing me a favor.’ she looks at me. ‘that was fun. you’re a good kisser. maybe i’ll try it again someday. thanks!’ of course, i say, grinning to myself. and that’s all there is to it.
story two: at another party, seated in a circle with a group of close friends. the guys discuss which of my straight girl friends they’d like to see hook up, and the women are blushingly obliging them. paired off in different combinations, just to see what will happen. every girl takes a turn but me. i am asked to kiss no one. i am sexless to them in their knowledge of my actual desire to kiss women. were i to become involved, it might ‘make it weird’, as if i can’t casually kiss a female friend for fun without suddenly falling in love. they watch as my straight lady friends kiss each other, expecting me to enjoy it from their perspective. instead, i feel as if i don’t exist. my very identity is being performed for spectacle in front of me, and i am blatantly shut out.
there is a difference.
Everyday Objects With Faces Are Awesome
When you walk around and look at everything around you, chances are, you may see a face. It may be human, it may be an animal, but sometimes you can see faces in inanimate objects. This is called Pareidolia: Seeing faces in random things!
Body Positivity for the win.
9 out of 16 are WoC from 9 different nationalities - Spanish, Native American, Middle Eastern, Greek, Hawaiian, South African, Indian, African-American and Chinese.
Even the “white” people don’t all come from the same place - French, Irish, American, Scottish, German, and English.
I’m really sorry if I left out YOUR nationality or YOUR body type, but if I kept going to include every single possible woman in the world I’d never have time for sleep or school work.
Pretty sure I reblogged this before. Definitely worth reblogging again. Body positivity, diversity, et. al. is more than one particular shape and size.
I fucking love this
Purple’s rarity in nature and the expense of creating the colour and has given purple a s u p e r n a t u r a l aura for centuries. The colour purple is a symbol of wealth, dignity and royalty. It’s also often associated with spirituality, m a g i c and mystery.
i love laughing about the friend zone because it’s so dumb like you know most of those dudes aren’t even IN the “friend zone” they’re in the “ugh god not this dude again” zone
this is what is going on in scotland right now.
dont ignore this.
there is NO coverage of the rioting on the news which is why its so important that you dont ignore this.
please stay safe if you live in scotland.
my partner actually went to the yes rally in george square a couple days ago and said the no guys were indeed doing nazi salutes
It’s important to make friendships that are deeper than gossiping and drinking and smoking and going out.
Make friends who you can go get breakfast with, make friends you can cry with, make friends who support your life goals and believe in you.